I love watching all sorts of movies involving relationships. The funny thing about romantic movies is that a lot of attention is placed on boy meets girl. You know the story, boy meets girl, they hit it off or they get into a fight. Then there’s some sort of conflict. The conflict is resolved, and boy and girl live happily ever after again. Typical Hollywood, very formulaic, very contrived.

Unfortunately, real life is not like that. As you probably already know, as happy as you may be with your romantic partner, it is almost always never a smooth ride. Welcome to the real world.

And unfortunately, if your partner is pregnant, you have to make sure that you have a plan, otherwise, the false sense of security that you get from narratives involving couples can come to haunt you. Seriously.

There are all sorts of pregnancy recovery movies, but they make for lousy preparation for the real thing. Why? Well, again, it really all boils down to framing the narrative. Movies don’t really have all that much time and space to devote to adequate pregnancy preparation.

You actually would see quite a bit of preparation or attention paid to what happens during and before a pregnancy. But when it comes to movie depictions of the things that you need to do after the delivery, it’s very hard to find anything good.

Make no mistake about it, you have to pay attention to what happens to your partner after she gives birth. One of the best things you can give her is a post natal massage.

Now, this not only helps soothe her muscles, which have been under a lot of strain. In fact, she probably suffered through several months of strain and pressure. In fact, according to many studies, the muscle wall of the typical female thins out after pregnancy. That’s how much pressure there is on the internal wall of her tummy.

Do your partner a big favor, give her a post natal massage. This not only goes a long way in soothing those muscles so they can become more resilient, it also offers a tremendous opportunity for you and your partner to bond physically.

There’s nothing more intimate and direct than you placing your hands on her stomach and giving her a post natal massage. It’s a great way to relieve stress. It’s a great way to connect on a deep person to person level. It’s also a great way to express your love and affection for your partner through acts of service. Make no mistake about it, in any real romantic relationship, every little bit counts.